Having been sent to see Joe by work I had the typical male response that I don't need any of this and why should I go,but decided to give it a go. On meeting Joe I found him to be very pleasant and actually quite funny. After our first session he had suggested that I try the EMDR Treatment at first I was quite sceptical but decided I would give it a chance. After the first attempt at the EMDR, I had my reservations about it even more but still continued with the treatment. Who would think that placing a couple of vibrating paddles in your hands would enable you to deal with life horrors. It was not until the third session that I began to see the first signs of a breakthrough and I realised that it was indeed helping me to deal with the issues that I had buried deep inside my head, which until now I never knew how to. What I found was that it allowed me to leave the horrors of the outside world at the door and the confidence to deal with my baggage at an adult level and not keep them trapped inside my head where they could not be dealt with. I am so glad that I didn't act like your typical male and think I'm too hard to try anything like this and everything will go away eventually. If anybody has any reservations about trying the treatment leave them at the door and go for it - IT REALLY WORKS To Joe I send my many thanks for everything that we achieved together no matter how small we think the change is in ourselves is, it's makes a massive difference to the people we love.
I was recommended to Joe by an acquaintance who believed the techniques he uses would benefit me. I had an incident shortly after passing my driving test and this resulted in me developing a fear of being in control of a car . Occasionally I would take to the road but I found myself increasingly hiding behind excuses why I shouldn't drive until I reached a point where I stopped completely. It had been nearly twenty years since I had driven a car when I went to Joe for help. I must admit I was sceptical when he explained the technique to me, this being watching a light move from side to side and following it with my eyes, but I put my faith in him. It was hard not to, he is a fantastic man, knowledgeable, funny and sincere. I had never done anything like that before in my life, opening up to someone, but I felt comfortable confiding in him. It was as we chatted, that other events started to attract his attention. I always had anger and anxiety issues and "detective" Joe traced these back to a single event in my early years that he believed might be the root of my problems, my fear of driving included. To me, what had happened was just another childhood event, not particularly dramatic, but he had the skill to realise that it had had a huge impact on my young brain. He worked on this using EDMR (Google it). I felt as if a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. He sometimes refers to the technique as witchcraft and believe me that is what it felt like. Where previously I would have expected my anger or anxiety to surface, I realised that the usual building from within did not happen. I found myself remaining in control of the situation and not losing out to my temper or fears. I was able to remain rational and functional, I am now in control of myself and not relying on the child within me for answers, ( I'll let Joe explain that to you). As for the driving, I am now back behind the wheel with none of the anxiety that forced me to quit. I am taking lessons again to build my confidence and technique, and I expect to be driving normally in a couple of weeks. I am also enjoying a relationship with my parents that I never thought I would ever have, as an adult and not a frightened child. As I said, I was sceptical but sometimes in life we must trust the judgement of others and thanks to the recommendation, the EDMR, and Joe (although he won't thank me for suggesting he had anything to do with my "cure"), I am now the person I always wished I could be. I am enjoying life probably more than I ever have done as I am free from the chains of anxiety and fear that for so long held me back. My only regret is that I did not do this when I was a lot younger. Thank you Joe.
A client, 6 meetings (2012)
I was experiencing considerable work-related stress, due to high job demands, little control and a non-supportive manager. I was anxious about seeing a a man, a stranger, to open up my feelings to. I could not have asked for a warmer, friendlier and more understanding person than Joe Kearney. He put me at ease and after my 2nd session I was able to trust him. He was reassuring and honest with me and gave me my confidence back. I can be strong and put my life back in order. I had EMDR therapy; this gave me a clearer understanding of the problems that I have to tackle. Not alone that, but his understanding of stress issues in the workplace have ensured that, as my working life continues, I have learned that bullying and unsupportive behaviour is unacceptable at work and the steps I can take to address it. Thank you Joe, keep up your good work and I hope you continue to help many others.
A client (2012) 6 meetings
I went through a trauma when I was 18 years old. I had normal counselling afterwards and thought that I was ok. But whatever I thought, there were things that I couldn’t help. Like flashbacks in the day, or freezing suddenly, or feeling afraid for no apparent reason. I could rationalise it all I wanted, such as it was not my fault, but that wasn’t how I felt. What I did feel was that there was a hole in me where something had been ripped out. I approached EMDR with caution, not really sure how to handle blue lights flashing up and down a black bar. It was a slow process, taking a lot of getting used to. The thoughts and emotions were locked deep inside me, like a box with the lid firmly slammed down. But each week, Gerry patiently prised the lid open for a peek, and patiently went fishing through my box to find the angle to open it up. Somewhere between two vibrating tappers in my hand and those blue lights my memory let go of the fears, and the lies, and attached to the truth instead. Now even the pain has receded. Instead of being and open bleeding wound, it feels only that I have stubbed my toe, and although I can still remember the table I stubbed it on, the table is not here in the room – it is just a memory of a past event. It no longer overwhelms me. Gerry was calm, and happy to accept the challenge, to keep working on it and not give up. The EMDR has changed my reaction to the trauma in a way that normal counselling couldn’t. Thank you so much Gerry for your time and efforts. It is so very much appreciated.
A Client (2012) This person is in their 20's and used 20 meetings.
I suffered the effects of post traumatic stress disorder after marital problems and an assault. I knew I needed help to stop the obsessive thoughts, fear and anger that was stopping me from moving on and regaining my happiness. I found the sessions with Gerry using EMDR helped me have other, more helpful and calmer, thoughts about the events that were upsetting me and I can now see a future where painful memories will hardly intrude - something I never believed possible just a few months ago. I also understand myself much more as EMDR helps you realise that you have the ability in yourself to become strong and move on. I also appreciated Gerry's insight, knowledge and humour during some rather dark times and know that if I ever need to I can always go back for a one off session to get me back on track.
A client. (2012) 7 meetings
Joe You assisted me through one of the most difficult times I've had in my life and I am so grateful for our sessions together. When we returned to Australia, I continued on my medication for 6 months and maintained weekly appointments with a psychologist whilst setting up my own business and have never looked back! The business has taken the next step and I now have great staff working for me. I am doing something I was born to do!
A client (2009) 6 meetings
I can only thank Joe from the bottom of my heart for helping and curing me of my anxiety. Anxiety and panic attacks were a daily occurance, sometimes 3 a day, which i can only describe as physically exhausting and the scariest thing that has ever happened to me. Joe was welcoming from the start, always able to crack an Irish joke at the right moment! I had EMDR treatment, which like others have said, is amazing, and had no idea i had remembered all these thoughts from years ago that turned out to be affecting my day-to-day life. So we went back to the start and dealt with all the issues one by one, and after each EMDR session felt like a piece of the jigsaw had fallen into place. If anyone ever said to me what EMDR treatment is like, i would simply say life changing. I now live a panic attack free life, and know techniques I can use if I ever do feel like one is on its way. Joe is amazing! I also quite like his cats! :) ' Thanks Joe
A client (2012) 6 meetings
I want to say a huge thank you to Gerry and Joe for their expertise, warmth and kindness at a time when I was at a very low ebb. The school I work at has a wellbeing scheme and I was given the opportunity to go and see Joe when I was experiencing periods of anxiety at work. I worked with both Gerry and Joe over the next few months. I still have no idea how EMDR works, but the combination of that, their listening, questioning and analysis have transformed my life. I have been able to work through some troubling memories that were causing me huge anxiety and manage my emotions in a much healthier way. I now feel able to move on in my career, confident that if I need to talk through an issue, I can get in touch with them.
A client (2012) 6 meetings - Joe; 5 meetings - Gerry
I experienced a major trauma in February 2007. In an associated court case in August 2011, that disabling emotion returned. As a consequence, I was advised by a counsellor in Chicago to fiind someone trained in EMDR before attempting to cope with the next court case scheduled for December 2011. Joe was the person I found in Norwich and we worked very hard for 3 and a half months. The outcome for me was wholly transformative and I was successful in managing the next court case. I doubt I was an easy client. I frequently challenged Joe but I was also fighting to recover. I am extremely grateful to Joe for his skill, energy, wit, and compassion.
A client. (2011) 8 meetings
Since commencing our coaching work, both myself and our organization has benefited considerably from our monthly meetings. In particular, your help in working on my cognitive style has helped me develop and create realistic perspectives and identify previously unhelpful thinking patterns.
Executive Officer, Organisation for Carers (2007)